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ThirstCast is not just a Podcast it's a safe zone for young men and women with ideas and passion!
My name is Dennis Tzatzos and I started my entrepreneurial journey in 2021, now I sit down with other very successful business owners and learning how to Supercharge my life and how you can do that too!
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"YOU Either Stay A LOSER or Succeed!" | ThirstCast
Ever dreamed of achieving financial freedom to pursue self-employment full-time, but the fear of instability holds you back? We're tearing down those barriers, discussing the importance of financial planning when making the leap to self-employment. We'll get real about the rise of side hustle culture, creating content online, specifically through podcasts, and how strategic planning can make your dream a reality.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:11 Eleni's Surgery
01:52 Recovery Process
02:04 Eleni's Consistency & Motivation
03:01 82H water fasting challenge
03:50 Why Dennis decided to make this challenge
05:04 Fasting Tips
06:15 Fasting & Workout Combination
07:23 3 BEST exercises to burn belly fat fast
08:48 I'm constantly reminded how important it is to train our brain
09:21 How to leverage knowledge to your advantage
10:48 We NEED to stop promoting Hustle culture
11:33 Dennis's vision for this podcast
12:30 How to differentiate yourself from commodity
14:13 Things I value the most..
14:38 YOU only have 2 choices
15:42 Making money, scaling & sustaining
16:16 The ONLY place to document this journey
16:49 The problems Dennis has faced so far running an SMMA business
17:57 Give permission to enjoy life whilst working hard
19:15 Finding the right balance
19:45 Emotions over Responsibility
20:48 YOU are the main character of this game
So how are you doing? You had a recent surgery on your hand. What was?
Speaker 2:that about. It was a plant surgery, so I had a metacarpal balls excision plus a cyst removed, which means there were two bones as well underneath that sticking out. So we shaved her down.
Speaker 1:Is that? It was that on my wrist, yeah on your wrist, okay, and was there something that you needed to have done or that they didn't have any Issues with your health or with your bones?
Speaker 2:Well, I've tolerated for quite some time before I ended up going to the decision that I'm gonna have a surgery really, but it was getting quite painful so I had to do the surgery at the end. It's quite. It's quite Interesting, as I'm a nurse as well, so it was quite interesting to see the other side to be a patient this time.
Speaker 1:Oh, of course, because you normally be at the person who does. Who does the injections and how. How did it feel like to be on the other side, against.
Speaker 2:Well, not quite nice, I have to say, but it was quite different. The anxiety was sky-high, because when you know too many things, then you can get more anxious about the procedure. As it is, yeah, the less that you know, the better it is.
Speaker 1:How was? How was Different to your experience, like what are the things that you were like new before the surgery?
Speaker 2:Well, I kind of I was prepared. So when I went there, was prepared to like what kind of like anaesthetic I'm gonna have, how I would like it to be and what my expectations were.
Speaker 1:Okay, so quite high and what's like the recovery process. Does that take a long?
Speaker 2:It does take around like four to six weeks roughly, so I cannot use the arm for that that period. But I did promise myself, because I'm doing like Exercising as well in the fitness industry, that I'm just gonna hit Irovic and leg days, although you know leg days you can't do like it here every day, it's quite hard but sure, but it's really personal because you can't really always go and do upper body and because you have your yeah, I can't use it at all, but you're still going to the gym and you're still making the effort you like.
Speaker 1:Fit, discipline, to like go every day and do the things that need to be done and then get out of the way.
Speaker 2:It's one of the things that it describes me really determination, and then Then up every day for myself, for sure because it would have been completely different. I will have felt Under the weather if I don't continue my routine or if I don't go to the gym, because it's part of my life and part of who I am.
Speaker 1:So speaking about that as in from two days from now, what I'm going to do is I'm gonna try and do 82 hours of water fasting and for those who are familiar of what the h2o was, water fasting. So you basically you go on without any food and you only drink water for the first, I think it's for the first 48 hours or 72 hours, and you have your electrolytes and make sure that you don't have any sugar inside of your electrolytes. And then, after the 72 hours, then the next two days of that, you have twice a day bone broth and I mean I try out. I'm not the best when it comes to dieting and I really want to change, and One of the key factors that I want to do that challenge is not only for the health Benefits that you can get out of that, but it's also I want to test and push myself. To how much I can, you know, push myself and mind my mind in order for me to achieve this challenge.
Speaker 2:As long as you do it safely, you know, because For those people that they've never experienced such a thing before all, they've never done it Normally you gradually start fasting and not going straight away on 72 hours, yeah, um. So you have to be really careful. And then when you feel that at the point but you know you're feeling quite tired and that's your limitations there, as you said, with the electrolytes you have to be really careful. Please read the ingredients, because in in the industry there there's so many crab adding on the electrolytes it's unbelievable.
Speaker 1:Is it true that you can go without any food for more than three days? Because that, I think, is like the seven day challenge. Ideally Can you go. How many days you can go without food?
Speaker 2:um, the thing is just water the thing is you have to kind of like Get in that route and then get used to fasting, first gradually, and then there is no limitation. I mean the more days that you do, the best results you have. But for beginners you feel like you have like flu symptoms because your body is trying to adjust. So you will feel under the weather, of course, the more that you last more than 48 hours. That's when your body regenerates and your, your cells as well. They regenerate at that point.
Speaker 1:Nothing is a great exercise that you can, you know, do it once a month, or every other, or in a couple of months maybe, so you can reset your body and reset your metabolism and start to, you know, adjust the way that you want your, your diet and everything.
Speaker 2:By doing that, you're giving a break on your digestive system, and that's where Everything comes back from scratch. And not only that. We really have to pay attention, not what are we drinking during the fasting, but how are you going to break your fasting as well.
Speaker 1:One of the questions that I had I wanted to ask you was how can I combine my exercises and what sort of exercises can I do when I'm in during that period of water fasting?
Speaker 2:So normally you go for Low intensity because you won't be able to have that energy levels, especially for people that they haven't done it before, they're gonna feel quite like low and not energized. And the more regular that you're doing that, then your body can use it and then you won't have as many side effects as you would have normally in the beginning. But to begin with you should start with like low intensity. Some yoga exercises, slow pace walking, maybe incline if you go to the gym and you use your treadmill and, as I said, the more experience you become and the more often you do it, then you can implement more exercises on that period for sure, and If you were to advise me, like for three best exercises that I can focus on on losing belly fats, which one do you prefer, like your top three? Anything that includes really um pretty most strain On your body for example, or okay, and I wouldn't only focus on your core, because if I give you an example, first, back squats you have to engage your core to perform the exercise correctly, which, equally, you will bad the belly fat. You have to bear in mind though that is very important your diet. If your diet is correct, that's the last bit of the fat that you're gonna lose, as Generally speaking. So one will be back squats and the second will be Even when would you upper body, for example, chest press with a barbell or with dumbbell? Again, you need to engage your whole core and your body To perform the exercise correctly, and again you will burn fat. And the third exercise I will probably Say is bulgarian split squats. That is a hell of an exercise. I really hate it.
Speaker 1:Right, okay, that's like your top three to go for. That's interesting, and one of the most important things that I'm constantly being reminded of is that, equally as training your body, you need to Work out your brain as well, and I think we've previously talked about this on one of our previous episodes. You can click someone or find that in the description below If you want to watch that where we set about on. You know how quickly can you learn on doing certain things or On how much you can memorize the information by either reading a book or reading a book and listening to the book and some other things as well, and I think for me, it only makes sense to me right now is to Read something or be exposed to any information that I can use right now. I'm not saying you know. Everything that you can read and everything that you can use to increase your knowledge is good. However, how much you can use that to your daily life matters more than just acquiring Generic information, and I had this discussion with a friend of mine when we were just went for a coffee and I said to him Can you, can you give me some recommendations for bigs, because I really want to increase my storytelling. I really want to increase my ways of communicating with people, because that Is how I can elevate myself to being the best version of myself. Right now, in my current state and you know he was trying to recommend me like a couple of books, like history books and all that this is exactly my point you need to find something that will make sense to you right now and use that knowledge to apply to your daily life in order for you to become 10 times better. And if you're someone who's not making like, uh, lots of money or like this sort of household culture where everybody's promoting like 10k a month and all that, all of those side households, and I think the best side household that you can have right now is to investing yourself Instead of investing in anything like crypto and all that Bitcoin. That's good, but I don't think it's as good as when you're starting with a little money, and my best, the, the, the way I see and the way the things I do in my life, is to invest in the knowledge that I can use currently, and that knowledge will automatically live, level up my, my existence, because it's also the fact that when we talking here, you know you, you talking to another human being, because behind of the camera is another human being, and I want to create A relationship and environment where, as if someone were sat right next to me and we'll have it chat. As simple as that. The ultimate goal is just to get so many friends that everybody can win out of these situations by either listening to us or watching us and dies. That's precisely the the principle, if you you know, separate yourself and differentiate yourself from the, the commodity Out there, because everybody's for at some point some degree, they're getting influenced by people, whether I social media or the daily life, whether we like it or not. We need to find a way to differentiate ourselves from, from the rest of the people, and a good way, a good technique, is to Just have your own, have your own environment Before you just being inside of any circle.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because now you're very used to Doing the things that you want to do for you. You know, just doing the things that you want to do for someone else to get their attention or to get the respect for all that, and that's how you get other people's attention at the same time. Because now you, you put yourself in that position, that situation where you're doing things for yourself and things are working out for yourself, and automatically you attract that good energy into your own life Because you're so focused, you're so dedicated, you're now more consistent, you now have more willpower to do the things that you need to do In order for you to become the best version of yourself. And now, automatically what happens is that everybody wants a piece of it, and that's how you attract People to you, instead of you trying to focus all your time and energy towards other people. And I think that's a very good way to Learn from it. The you know, the sooner the better, because once you acquire that technique and everybody will automatically want to be in your life.
Speaker 2:That's true, that's very good for you.
Speaker 1:That's very good points that you made on on that really, and the things that I value the most Are one of my energy and my surroundings. Like you can't allow people to talk down to you or you can't allow people to you know, think that your videos are cringe and start those people having affection, then you're now demonizing yourself and you're telling yourself that you're not good enough and without knowing, and in this game, you only have two choices you are the give-up and you become a loser, and you stay a loser because you are afraid of, you know, stepping up on your game and you feel, like you, you cannot be that person, your ideal person, or you step up your game. You expose yourself to the reality, you see how difficult it is to do anything, but you're still going forward, you still not giving up, and what you find is the moment I feel scared to jump is it precisely the moment that you jump? Then this is where you find true success in anything that you do and that that really comes to the businesses as well. Dramatically and I've me personally I've been exposed to the whole side house, all so bull run in my late 2022, where everything was, you know, make money fast, then easy money, but the thing is that easy comes as it goes because you need to not just be able to generate money and dreams and sustained it as well but also scale it and then preserve it. How the ability. Okay, say, you go from 10 to 100k in a month, for example, but how do you, how do you maintain so much, so much money? I can't say for exactly what it takes to go from A to B, or how to maintain when you get there, because I'm not there yet. And this is exactly the ideal place where we can document those things, because there's nothing better, better than documenting your life and the things that you're going through and and the things that you're doing, your businesses as well, because, at the end of the day, I really wish I had someone, you know, point out my problems, or someone to go to when I had a problem, instead of me trying to. You know, hit my head on the on the wall and I figured out everything by myself what difficulties did you face so far? so let me take you back to the beginning, when I first started the whole side house of journey. I started when everyone was we're really into like SMMAs, agencies, digital agencies, basically and I think the number one reason that I did myself that I failed it was because I wasn't consistent enough, I didn't have the right mentality, I didn't have the right vision for me to do what it takes. And I think it's really easy to acquire those skills as long as you have a daily habit, as long as you set up your calendar in a way that you can do the things that you need to do. Now, there's different techniques. Everybody's different to how they want to structure their life. Advice absolutely fine, as long as you do the things that you want to do, I don't care if you want to watch Netflix, I don't care if you want to play your video game. As long as you do the things that really matter first and then you can enjoy your life. Because what I see is like everybody's judging other people. All you watching Netflix, all you you, I don't know play video games. All you listening to music because music now, this is degenerate all you do all those things, but I think a lot of us. We're really missing the point. And the point is if you, as long as you do the things that matter first, as long as you, you know, work out your, your business and and focus on your business and put the right amount of time towards your business, then you should give permission to yourself to find enjoyment with whatever satisfies you, whether that is playing video games or watching Netflix or listening to music. I think we we become so difficult to ourselves. At the same time, we try to convince that, no matter what it is, I will just work day in and out, because I've tried it. I know how it is yeah and you need to find the right balance in order to succeed.
Speaker 2:You can't just say I'll just work two years without ever having, you know, at least some kind of fun in my life yeah no matter the levels, but definitely you need to do some sacrifices, though, to reach your goals for sure, every, everything that you do in life.
Speaker 1:Either way, I see you sacrifice something else. If I want to devote myself to work, then I'll have to sacrifice my pleasure. If I want to you know travel around the world, then I can't really walk the as this, the same Mars if I want to travel. So, no matter what you do, you sacrifice something else. The way I see it and the way I put things in my own life in line, is I never really assign a feeling towards a goal and I always assign a responsibility towards that goal. Because if I say I'll give you an example, if I say I don't feel like going to the gym, or if I don't feel like working on my business today, or if I, if I say I don't feel like I don't know doing whatever, it's not the same as if I was to say to you I have a responsibility to do that because of the consequences that I will later on have if I don't, and automatically it puts me in a scenario that I have to take action, because I know I'm the main character in this game and there's no one's gonna come into your life to occupy your hand and work on your business for you yeah, there's no way. Let's, let's be real. Let's be real, you know, understand if you don't want to work in your job. Understand if you feel frustrated every time that you're working as an employer and force for someone else, and I don't think this that's a bad thing. I think everything that you want to do is absolutely fine. If you want to do it employer and working for someone and making ex money that's absolutely fine, as long as you're enjoying what you do. But if you don't want to be in the situation where you just you feel like you don't belong in that same environments, being under someone else or have different ideas, or maybe you feel like you can do something on your own, what I personally recommend is to have at least six months plan and have a budget for a minimum of six months plan. If you really want to leave your job or what you only work on your side house or work on your businesses on the weekends, on your free time, it doesn't matter. You have 24 hours in a day, you know. Just work up a little bit earlier, work on your business, go to work and you always find time and you can still make it happen. You can still make it happen and then when you're in this financial situation where you have at least three months of income from your business and now it's generating the same money as your income from the job that you're working for, then you can safely leave that job and then focus on your business full-time. But if you really want to leave your job and if you really want to just completely focus your time or 100% on your business, you should at least have minimum of six months of financial freedom, because all you do is buy more time to yourself. Yeah and you still have to act smart and you still need to have a proper plan and you still need to think all the things that you need to do in those six next six months, because if you just leave it to day after day, you you'll find yourself that you eventually run out of resources before even making anything yeah and the thing that we always say to ourselves is that we have that illusion that everything is working fine. We like even that. Even we think that we're working much, we actually we don't actually working as much as we should, because the productivity that we think that we're putting into the things that we work for is not actually the same, and and that's and that's what I personally advise, and I see, and others and love, opportunities are there to make a lot of money and, and one of the things that we previously mentioned it was the side house of culture. You know, and I think we need to stop promoting side house of culture because, okay, say, you're going into this. You know field or faceless channels, for example, on YouTube, where all they do are discussed under my previous episode, where all they do is just have a script generated from job to PT, then all they do is just find a contractor on Fiverr and from there they upload the video and all they do is just have affiliate links, affiliate links down in the description, and then they take permission. But that automatically becomes very saturated because everybody will start doing it, and I think the best thing that you can approach any situation when it comes down to to money and business is not just. You need to have a long, a short-term goal, but also a long-term goal and see if you can see trajectory. It's always a long term because if you cannot sustain and maintain what you made, then it's not really sustainable yeah and you need something that is sustainable, scalable, and then you can preserve what is when you get, when you get there, and that's why whoever is going through side households and they jump from from side household to side household to side house will be because is the new trend, is the new meta for those they play video games. They know what I'm talking about and and and this is this is how it goes, and I believe everybody should start making content online today, no matter if they have a business or want to create a business, because the opportunity that has by creating content and I take this from Gary Vee is so much. I'll give you an example. Say that you in the real estate and you're real estate agent and now you do all those videos. You put them on every social media platform. Understand, every social media platform is different and you need to understand how the algorithms work. Yeah, but now what you do? You also generating different levels of incomes online that can help you, potentially, in the future, grow passively, without you putting hours in, because we are there what one-on-one, one to a few, like in a small group, or one to many, which in this scenario is the case, and all you can do is just either you create a small product or a service yourself or you can be a consultant and you can offer your consultant sessions for 500 pounds, for 250 pounds, for a half an hour, one hour, whatever. And now, because you are the expert, I don't need to go to a solicitor, I don't need to pay money to someone to get that 10 times more money to get that information, because now I can come to you and get all the things that I need, it and more if you build up the value, the product that you're building in, and it's a great way to do a lot of things, and I highly recommend everyone who really wants to go into the content creator world to start using podcasts. Podcasts I don't know the exact numbers in 2023, but in last year, I think it was, the numbers for the people who had a podcast was around 300,000, over to extent that other, for YouTubers, were like over 18 million users. You can clearly see the differences night and day, and I've seen that a lot of people are using podcasts nowadays to do whatever. But also, what I see is that a lot of people are not consistent enough with their own podcast or their business, and I think there is a study that is about 87% of podcast fail after the third episode and there's like a very small percentage. I don't really know the numbers exactly, but there's a very small percentage that doesn't even reach the 10th episode. So, here's my promise to you. In six months from now, we'll be here, so I'm going to find next to each other, talking about the things that matter, talking about the things that you can create when I create things and share the things I do with you, and I hope you find the things that I do enjoyable. So make sure that you subscribe and follow us throughout the journey and I think one of the biggest reasons to be able to do this. You need to be consistent to the things that you do and what I've just done. Right now is very difficult to make promises to people, because people will hold you accountable, and that's exactly what I need you to do to hold me accountable to the things that I say, because the things that we say I always put practice to them. Yeah, that's very true and understanding. We've only been doing this for just a month and understanding these early days. You can't start making promises and being these guru and stuff, saying things, and for the things that I say, I do daily and I actively do the things that I'm suggesting right now. Hopefully, I can work out some things on my own.
Speaker 2:But of course, consistency is a key element for whatever you do, generally speaking, in your life. Is that a podcast? Is that your work? Is that your dream? Everything really comes from it, and then the energy and the effort that you put in it is how much you like it, how much you want to succeed on that and what your goals are.
Speaker 1:You see, we often have that ideal scenario of what we want to achieve. Say that my ideal is. Another one I want to achieve is to make ten Gs a month. But because a lot of people they have that ideal scenario in their head where they want to be in the future, they fail to understand what they have to do right now and the things that they have to apply to themselves. And I saw this somewhere on the internet I can't quite remember where where it said what makes you believe that if you're making one million a year with exactly the same mindset and the things that you do right now, you'll be able to maintain or growing your business even more? The chances of failing are over 99%. And I think that's entirely true, because to get somewhere and start making the long money, start being a very successful individual, you need to go through a journey, and that journey often comes with loneliness. And that journey also often comes with people saying things to you because they have either tried to do what you want to do or they have failed and failed in the process and they want to take you down with them. And I think there's a lot of things to keep in place and you need to grow yourself before you reach on that level, which is precisely the reason I'm creating a private community where people who are consistent and people who really care about the future can join. Now, this is not for everybody, and I want to allow people who are not taking this seriously, so make sure you stick around and it will be soon ready for you to join. I'll make sure to leave all details in the next couple episodes. From now on, there's not a launch date, but you'll know what it is. Let me tell you a story. Actually, behind of this. I was listening to someone on YouTube. The story is, they said, is besides working your communication skills and being different from other people in a way that you talk differently, you are differently, you don't dress the same as other people you also need to be able to have a great story to tell, which is precisely what I'm doing right now. I'm telling you a story. I really find this very fascinating when I hear other people's stories, because I often relate myself to with them, and this is one of the great methods that you can use to either date someone, see someone in your business or even communicate your message to other people in a way that is funny, in a way that is intriguing and mysterious, and we all have a story to tell, but the thing is that we don't actually live our lives to see how you can create a story. Now, I'm not saying I'm the best story seller out there and I really double down to the things I communicate with you, but what I really want to make a point of is that no matter if you're just going to work and coming back to home and just go to gym, you always have a different story to tell every single day, as long as you pay attention to the details.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's true, it's a good point.
Speaker 1:You understand what. I'm saying and say, if you run out of stories, say that you don't really know what to discuss about and you don't feel like the things that you said are very interesting and they're always very boring. All you have to do is just create your own story. Jump on a train, go to a small trip and you always have a story. Spend a few pounds to go and actually live, actually live, and this is what I really missed from myself and how I really done this. For a lot of months, actually, not even years, because I was so deep into how can I do this and how can I do that. That's fine, but actually living Because we okay, you make no money, you've lost your goal, but your actual goal is to be free. Now, freedom is different, for everybody. Freedom is a term that is different to everybody, but that is what we all are working for making money to be able to be free.
Speaker 2:And then if you think some people, then when they change that, then they decide to live their lives to the things that they like, go to places that they've never been and they've dreamed of, and yeah.
Speaker 1:Another thing that I saw somewhere was say, someone gives you one million dollars and you really have the check. So you take the check, you go to the bank, you give the bank the check and they say to you guys, fine, we just need ten days to deposit because there's a lot of money. We need ten days to, you know, make the transaction successful and then you'll be a millionaire. During the process, during those next ten days, you are the most happy person that you ever be, because now you already live in the dream. Now you're already living the things that you always wanted to do. Go to the vacations that you always wanted to go, go to Bali or Dubai, and you know, start flexing and see who I am, because you already process that information in your mind and you live in it as if you were doing this in the future. But you still don't have any money in your pocket. You're still the same broke dude that you were going to Starbucks for coffee, for for pound and fifty. You know that's very true, and I really thought about this and I said, dude, that's exactly the meaning of life you need to live your life but it's easy to forget.
Speaker 2:It's easy to forget. To be honest with you getting in a routine, things getting forgotten.
Speaker 1:And that's my point if you're really stuck into your I need to work, or I need to go to the gym, or I need to do this, I need to do this. We often forget to actually live and and do the things. That makes us happy.
Speaker 2:But even enjoy those small things as more moments as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but let me say a chop, cut or not, and, as I mentioned a word, which was happiness, because I know a lot of people that are trying to chase where happiness is, and I think happiness is different for everybody. You can find happiness in different things that you do, no matter what you do. However, chasing happiness I don't think is the right method to be free. I can exactly give you the description of that as of yet, because I don't have any really found my own happiness in order for me to tell you my own story based on that. What I can relate to that is the things that I currently do say this podcast. I really love doing this. I always wanted to find something to give me purpose, and I think this is it. Can I be 100% sure? I don't know, and I don't think I'll ever know, if that's exactly what I really want, but right now, it gives me 100% the purpose I always wanted for now. In the future it could be different. So to me, right now, that is part of being, you know, happy and successful in a way that I have some things to do. I always, you know, wake up every single day looking up for the new things that I'm gonna explore to the new things I'm gonna learn and sit down with you and talk in front of the camera and speak about the things I learned. It's almost like I feel like a five-year-old kid. You know there's everything so new. You take the kids to the park and they see the. They see every new faces, new people they can play with new. You know background. And this is exactly how this feels to me, because it's everything so new. I'm always like I love this. I need to know more about this and the more that you know something, the more that you explore yourself to a new possibilities and new threads of possibilities. And if you start thinking about this, what I say makes sense. I always compare to the things that we see in the documentaries and to the scene that we see in the movies, because movies nowadays they all, they all come to reality day after day. There are some point I'm pretty sure we'll leave the day, while some point we'll see cyborgs running across the streets. I don't know, just making that shit up. However, that's how I see it. You know I'll take an example. When I mentioned documentaries, I was watching documentary a couple days ago about animals and what was happening in dinosaurs era and before then and how earth and animals, you know, leveled up in the evolution, basically, of animal life and what they had to do to adapt and survive in order for them to, you know, make it. And I was really educational and I took the small pieces of information from the documentary and applied that to my life. I applied that to the things so I can see life. I can see people differently. So an example, really crucial point they made in the documentary was on how males are mating with the females and what they have to do to compete with each other in order for them to get the whoever they want.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I saw how the same that scenario is in reality. Say, you're a single guy, you really want to go out and find your girlfriend. You go to clubs and you see all the main predators that I just wanted the same chick. She's a 10. You come up six or seven. You don't have the same confidence as like other people, like 9s and 10s, but all you do is just sit back and watch and watch on how the females are responding to each other. How are the people, how are the men are approaching the single one and they all get ejected. Because now you see, if there's like a female group and it's one that she's like a nine or ten and the rest of them are like a five or six, you know, and because they all feel you know all they all have, they all want the same attention and she wants to be, you know, the kind of person that she's just rejecting everybody to make to have to have fun with their friends. Because that's the reality and you don't allow yourself to go there. You just wait, patiently and patiently wait to divide moments when you see guy after guy she's rejecting, and now her friends. They're going to the toilet because if someone goes there they just, they all go anyway. So and she's alone. And now you are the main predator, because now 99% of other male predators, even if they were 9s or 10s, they all go rejected because they didn't make a plan before they do that.
Speaker 2:And now you make your so is that your Saturday, and now you make your move.
Speaker 1:Let me finish and I'll tell you. And now you, you know, walking towards to here with confidence, with a smile on your face. You had a drink, or maybe you want to offer a drink, and you always start with a compliment and now you see his smile. And now you see, you know, you just that's to do that. You know, it doesn't really affect you as much as getting rejected, and you talk into her in a friendly manner and now she's very comfortable with you. However, since you have the opportunity to talk with someone, because now her friends are in the toilet, you buy her a drink, you flat with you, you get your head number even better, you stop dancing with her and next thing you know she's bugger your place and that's how you do it, and that was the story of the documentary, and I said dies absolutely phenomenal, because that's exactly what is in the reality right now that's a very good plan. You need to understand the field, you need to see when is the right movement, the right time to make a move, and then you make it mean you use your hook and what is hooked. Then you have to retain the conversation and once you retain the conversation, you've learned a little bit and you have it ready. What do you think as a female?
Speaker 2:I really want to know your perspective the thing is, at the end of the day, everything comes from our choices, so we will reject, and we are the ones that we are gonna choose at the end which guy we like the most. However, I want to say that don't take rejection like to your heart. Okay, you've been rejected, and so what? Nothing has happened? You move on. You just do things differently next time, but you crackle with your life. I just don't understand when people feel like so down by a rejection or like the whole world has been destroyed for them, and then they don't know what they do they're very sad, I think, is a massive part plays of when you're getting rejected.
Speaker 1:You feel very insecure by yourself. The next couple minutes, that's fine, that should but, I, think you're always in a win-win situation because, even if you get rejected, you have now succeeded to walk up to someone and talk to you. Exactly even if you get rejected, you have more confidence to walk to someone else and talk to them. You will know what he's saying a little bit better it's a little bit of an exercise. The more you do that better you become and I think I the when I, when I do that, I don't approach someone thinking I don't know them as a completely stranger. I always approach someone thinking that I know them, and when I go talk to them, it's almost like I feel I talk to you, a friend of mine and at the same time, it doesn't feel the same. It just feels like I'm just talking to a friend, but the things I say is okay, they're different yeah, but you break the ice and it's not awkward for me and not awkward for her and I think that's pretty much. You know how you do it. I don't take a lot of time to be able to do that and what I used to do is to you know, go go to the grocery store or go get a coffee, and I'll just talk to the waiter and say you know how's your day, good morning, and what's your name, nice to meet you, without even flit on it, just just talking to her so I can build up my social skills and once I'm confident enough to talk to people that I don't know, just because I've practiced enough. Now it doesn't feel the same when I'm just talking to someone that I never really met before. I think that's how and that's that's a little guys that is struggling with. I see, I used to be like that. I'm not saying I'm perfect the way I am. I used to be like that and these are, these are the techniques that I I did to train myself and train my mind when I talk to someone and you see them, the more that you talk and communicate with someone, the things that you say, they, they become better as practice. It's become better on flit and become better on finding out the things before you even walk out to someone to see if they're interested in you. And I have a a rule, a technique for that, which I call the three-second rule, which is when you maintain eye content for someone, those three seconds are the most important ones, because in those three seconds and it's really critical to maintain the eye content before those three seconds she was look down or looks sideways. If she looks down, or if she maintains an icon with you, I guess, but if she looks down, it's a sign that she's been, that she's gone. You know, exposure, exposure. If she sees sideways, that means that she's not into you, she doesn't want to talk to her, and that's fine. Or she has a boyfriend. That's before you even walk out to her someone. And if she maintains high content, that means that she's intrigued. Now and once you trigger that emotion, you want to know more about this person. You trigger that emotion and now, when I'm walking up to you, you've already settled your mind. When I come to you, it's not completely out of nowhere, because when we come to talk to you out of nowhere, you have your guard up automatically, without Sometimes you don't even know, but you just do, because you've not really used to these situations.
Speaker 2:But if you really pay attention to the body language, then you really really get the signals and the messages. It's very clear, but you just need to pay attention to those body language.
Speaker 1:What are the body language? Because I keep talking and I think these are things that you should be saying, not me.
Speaker 2:For example, if they have the hands like that, that means they are protecting themselves. So the bodyguard is the guard. No, the bodyguard the guard is up.
Speaker 1:Unless they have a bodyguard.
Speaker 2:You never know. They might have a friend that is their bodyguard. Of course it's always the case. They're always somewhere around, so pay attention.
Speaker 1:That was so funny.
Speaker 2:The second one is if you manage to approach them and they have a conversation. So when they open their palms up, that means that they're open for a discussion. And they are open to you and exposed. That's number two. And then I will agree with you on number three, on eye contact. So if they look at you, they are interested in you, they want to know more. Now, if you're having a conversation and she's looking around, then she's bored, she's not engaging, that's it. When they look at you and they look down and they look back to you, they are shy, but they still want to talk to you.
Speaker 1:Okay, what is one I don't know catch phrase or line up they use on you, or in the past probably? They say, yeah, that's a good one, I'll give you a chance.
Speaker 2:I don't know, because I don't normally work with phrases. Women don't normally work with phrases because men are the ones that they approach the women.
Speaker 1:That's why someone said to you and said oh yeah, you know what? I'll give you a chance for that.
Speaker 2:Well, actually I was walking past in town and there was like a guy coming towards me and saying well, you know what? I don't know you. I don't know if you're going to talk to me or if you want to talk to me, but you look beautiful today. Have a lovely day.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's nice.
Speaker 2:That's a nice compliment and you feel well in yourself. So I was impressed with the others. With you I was like wow much appreciated. I felt good for the rest of the day.
Speaker 1:And then he was gone. But then he left, then he was gone, okay.
Speaker 2:You know, sometimes even when you say something.
Speaker 1:That's practice. That's what I said about practice. Yeah, and that is something You're confident.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, and being positive as well.
Speaker 1:And then you're like, oh, yeah, all women want to hear compliments and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. We love women compliments and I think you know you're like creatures and you have an amazing job in life and you bring other people to life and I think you deserve those compliments. We don't get as much, but we would like Unless it's just me, but anyway. So but that's really interesting. You know, and I absolutely agree, if you walk out to someone, you don't really want to be cold and have nothing to say. When it's the moment to talk to someone, you know, coming back to I mean going forward, rather to dates Say, you're on a date with a guy, how do you feel? Like? Who should pay for the first date and why? Because I see this everywhere. I really want to make the point of that.
Speaker 2:It is a bit tricky, so in my case, I will offer to pay mine. Yeah, however, I will appreciate it more if he's been a gentleman and he ends up paying for both, Okay.
Speaker 1:Simple. I agree. I would never allow myself to for someone else, if I'm going on a date with someone, to pay for the meal or drink or whatever, it's something that you really don't want to do, especially on the first date. If it's like 200 dollars I don't know, 100 pounds Because you ask her on the date most likely, even if she asks you, I will still pay and I will do it in a way that she would never find out, because that's the thing you don't want to be. Say, you go for food in someone and they wait. You finish your conversation and had a great time. You don't want the waiter to come to your table with the POS waiting to get paid.
Speaker 2:That's a good technique.
Speaker 1:That's now an awkward moment for her, because now she's testing you on if you're actually willing to pay for the meal, because that is the moment you can see the vibe, you can see the energy. And if you want to avoid that, to just end the night amazingly and smoothly, you just go to the toilet. And as you go to the toilet, before you guys leave, you pay for everything.
Speaker 2:And no one ever finds out.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, how much is this for your side? How many chips you ate? And I stopped counting on the chips I ate and said, oh, you ate more food than me or you drank more than me, because I know those things are very real. That's how I see it at least. But one thing I don't like is having the expectation of meeting. There is something about that that just annoys me.
Speaker 2:It will annoy me too when, if like a woman had approached is well, what do you mean? Who is going to pay? You're going to pay. That attitude and that that character is is not quite nicely out. I wouldn't like that response either, personally.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know, it's just, I don't, it's just a big tunnel for me. Immediately puts me in the skeptic of oh, is she? Does she just dating me for for my? Money and the things that I do to lifestyle that I have and and everybody wants to be part of it. Because you automatically put yourself in those thoughts and say, oh, hold on a moment, I mean I'll do it fine, but why does she have that kind of attitude?
Speaker 2:And yeah, I'm here just like only to pay. Just pay whatever she she wants. Kind of think it will put me off as well, because that doesn't show that she's genuine.
Speaker 1:About you and more like on the things that you come with Speaking about that. How would you describe a high value man?
Speaker 2:How would I describe a high value man?
Speaker 1:Someone would you call a high value man and someone would you be okay to see in the long term? And what does a high value man means to you?
Speaker 2:The first thing that it comes from my mind is have manners. It's quite important for me personally. Then the second thing will be to have a personality, because it's quite important that they have an opinion and they just don't get lost with other people around them. And the third thing I would say will be to be genuine, open and honest and be true to the other person. Really, I think that's the three correct ways that they will matter to me the most.
Speaker 1:Do you think a high value man is someone who is capable of providing and protecting and having to give something to the table?
Speaker 2:That will come a little bit after, really, because in the beginning what you want to find out is what kind of person you have opposite to you, and then you will think about what they can bring to you to make you both a whole.
Speaker 1:And what do you think is your responsibility as a woman when you find that ideal partner, and what values do you bring to the table after? You want to know.
Speaker 2:Sometimes what we think, we don't communicate it and we expect the other person to read our minds. So I will express verbally what I am thinking.
Speaker 1:so the man on the other side what sort of values like as you individual, bring to the table when you now express those values towards the ideal guy.
Speaker 2:More or less I would expect the same things from me, so it would be the same. I wouldn't have different expectations from the other half if I don't bring the same values to them.
Speaker 1:I don't want to expose you there, but I think this is very critical to understand both sides. Nowadays you see a lot of women, mostly women nowadays. They expect so many things from the guy. They expect everything. They expect to be the provider, the protector, to have so much money, to be tall feet, black or tall or with how many, and all that. And when it comes to okay, I can try my best, provide everything that you ask for or come with this lifestyle or whatever, but when it comes to the opposite, all I bring to the table is myself and what I have, and that's just not good enough. And I'm the star of frustration of many men who come across these situations, because if they end up having a relationship with this person and all they are for with them is just money and fame and the network this guy has, then it's just what was his, how he's going to feel like, appreciated and loved, and all that, if all you care about is how you can steal my money and the things that I've built up my whole life.
Speaker 2:But don't you think that it's quite important to address those things in the beginning?
Speaker 1:Absolutely absolutely, because that's exactly my point. That's why I asked you those questions and because I think those are very important questions to ask in the beginning. But I don't think you need to ask those questions because there are certain characteristics or traits from women that you can actually see and tell. Like you know, chances are that if she's behaving like this when she's single or around other guys, then nothing's going to change her when she's with you. And the things that I currently see to see if I can see myself with someone else, I need to see if that person I have in front of you can be the mirror of my life.
Speaker 2:But that's why you can get those signs through a conversation that you have.
Speaker 1:It's not just a conversation. I think it's just a conversation.
Speaker 2:It's a conversation part as well.
Speaker 1:But I think it's also what you're selling out to other people, whether that is your appearance or whether it's where you talk to other people, because there are certain things, certain ways that we don't appreciate doing. If you were to be our girlfriend in front of other men or in front of other people and the biggest thing is to never disrespect us publicly because this is really important for guys and for men to be respected and the moment that we feel that we're not being respected, especially disrespected from our girlfriend or lover or whatever partner in front of other people, now automatically it's a massive turn of a big no-no for us, because now we will have all these arguments, we'll have all these things going on and we will never be respected for the things that we want to. And I think that's a big problem nowadays and the way I see it, if you really see the big picture, that issue comes from men, because we allow certain behaviors and certain actions to be made. Say, if you're like a millionaire or making tons of money, or you're a rapper or influencer that's just traveling around the world, you allow the action of you flying out other people and give them 10 Gs, sleeping with them one night and then now they have that ideal situation and all they want to do and find other people is having similar traits. Because if you live to this lifestyle and you're coming back to this lifestyle, your expectations are way up. And you're never satisfied with what a commoner can give you. It's just as simple as that. And this comes back to and the rest of the behavior comes back to the normal, to it that's going through all the shit that she's bringing with and all the drama and all those things. Do you think I'm right in the way I see it, or do you think I have some points?
Speaker 2:No, I do agree with that. If I would disagree, I would give you a different example, but these are behaviors that I completely agree with.
Speaker 1:Okay, I guess we can leave it as that. Make sure you guys subscribe and follow for more. Thank you.