Katerina Minkova - MY EX KIDNAP MY DAUTHER

In this heart-stirring episode, join Dennis Tzatzos and his inspiring guest, Katarina Minkova, as they unravel the essence of true grit. From harrowing escapes to triumphant victories, Katarina's journey from Bulgaria to the UK, battling odds in personal life, and rising in the fitness world, becoming a champion (Literally!)  💪

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my daughter she was a little baby literally a baby she was in her small bed and I went for a coffee with friend and I said to my mom I I'm going to leave Nico and I'm just going to go for a coffee and uh and I'll be back soon and while I was having my coffee with my friend I got a a weird message of um of her father saying just because you don't want to be with me um I'm going to make your life really hard and you're not going to see your child anymore welcome back to another episode of f cast my name is Dennis jges and today I have a very special guest of mine a very good friend of mine Karina mova yes welcome this is the first time actually you you know you're agreed to be here and we've been talking quite a lot about this and I wanted to introduce like familiar faces friend of mine you know new friends coming into the show and talk about anything really because I like to tell a story I like to tell a good story and I always find your stor is quite interesting so welcome thank you thank you for asking me to come that's okay no problem at all thank you for taking the time to be here I know you're quite busy yourself yeah but for friends yeah yeah absolutely take me back to when you first moved to the UK before you moved to the UK what what would you what you went through and what made you like come over oh wow that was a long time ago 10 years ago I think 2013 was the first time I I came to UK I had one of my best friend she had um fiance in here from exmouth a marine guy uh so she said I'm going um to live with him in UK and at this point I was um after a really um long and bad relationship um in my life so I really needed it to run away literally running away from Bulgaria and I thought it it's a really good opportunity just to come to UK and uh I said okay she said it's on the seaside um at this point I could I'm I'm a hairdresser and a Bara and at this point I was um I know B then as well and I was thinking maybe on the seaside I can find some job as a b there or why not in a bigger city as a exitor where we are now um I had dresser yeah so yeah that's how I came with her and you had your daughter Nikki behind the cameras Oh a beautiful one she's a a big girl now uh she didn't came with me this um this period um she CU she was going to school so I left her back in Bulgaria I came to see what kind of opportunity I could find in UK yeah and there it must have been like a very difficult Journey For You difficult decision um rather to do because obviously having a child you know raising up mostly by yourself and you know making that massive step forward for a better future yeah I find some uh I had some really bad moments in UK but generally I really like UK for a place where my daughter could grow up M uh as you say I've been raising her almost in my own almost most of the time on my own so I find this really good opportunity so that's that's the reason that's the reason I came back AB uh two years later on 2016 I came back with her yeah and U yeah eight years later still here absolutely he's going college now different things I mean I see that myself cuz I moved from Greece to the UK about 7even years ago almost and I mean I can't compare to your life you know having a kids and doing all these great things yourself but is a massive thing to do especially when you're young I was 21 when I first came to UK and with literally zero pounds in my bank account and I said I don't care as long as I can be somewhere where I can build myself and build my future because I care so much about the things I want to do later on I don't care about sacrificing a couple of years when I'm like 20 to to to be able to then afford this kind of Life fast forward 7 years to today I'm now doing exactly the same thing from a different perspective because I do all this to achieve the exactly the the exact same situation that uh I want to do you know and for for a lot of people including myself I don't exclude myself is Financial Freedom this is what you want to this is this is what you want to do and this is what I want to do to achieve to be able to support not just my life but support like a lot of other people's life my families and and whoever whoever comes along you know you see what I mean uh what was the biggest challenge that you faced since you had a child because you had a very very young age before you moved to UK oh wow um so at the age of 15 uh I became an adult basically cuz I started working uh my mom is a hairdresses so I literally grew up in her shop as a hairdresser I was working off age of uh 15 I was already like I could say independent kind of where I uh met in age of 16 my daughter's father um things happened really quick and uh I got pregnant and uh an age of 17 I was already a mom and um wow that was a really really difficult time of my life um I would say probably the most difficult time of my life cuz I was a child myself and I have to look after a child and uh basically dealing with the person because his father her father it's um is not really nice person it's um I would say a narcissistic person okay and I really really have to um to deal with that in age of 16 which was a really really uh big challenge for me um I've been abused by him sexually and um and any kind I you can imagine um and age of 18 I think yeah exactly it was my birthday on uh 16 of May and then 17th of May in the morning I just because he lives in another town U probably 100 miles away from my town I wake up early in the morning of age of 18 exactly 10 age of 18 and I run away from him I took my child uh in a taxi and I just say just drive back to my town and that I was only 18 and that was my life started completely like um independent woman that sounds like a movie at the age of 18 you run away with one kid one kid that your hands and and no regrets and say this is it oh no I never I never looked it back and um uh the reality is I didn't really love them men uh I was too young just experiencing sex and we were together probably two or three months and I find out I'm pregnant and it was it was really um my family when they uh find out like my dad I I thought he going to um get mad but he was happy he was like yeah and my reaction probably told him I'm not sure why I want cuz I'm only 16 years old and he was like looking at me and was like if you ever think of uh killing that baby you're a killer for me so in this point in six of age of 16 you you respect your parents you respect your parents um opinion and advice and then I was like okay so I have to keep that uh baby I guess and the next thing was you have to marry them man I'm coming from country when when you're preg that you have to get married so they made me married I was only um uh already 17 when I got married and uh and yeah the the point is that I I wasn't really in love with this man I didn't really experiencing a the Big Love Of Love of My Life One thing just things happen so quick that um yeah I just have I had to move in his town and as soon as I turned 18 as I told you I I literally run away from him and um I never looked back but he didn't let me just go as easy as I thought I just leave you town and with your child and everything will be fine so that's what the biggest challenges in my life uh came when he was like um uh literally um chasing me and uh I had a a funny story when I was um uh she my daughter she was a little baby literally a baby she was in her small bed and uh I went for a coffee with friend and I said to my mom I I'm going to leave ni and I'm just going to go for a coffee and uh and I'll be back soon and while I was having my coffee with my friend I got a a weird message of um of her father saying just because you don't want to be with me um I'm going to make you life really hard and you're not going to see your child anymore and I was like I was thinking he's bluffing I I wouldn't even imagine anything that he could do and uh I just called my mom to double check is Nico okay is she sleeping is she on her bed and she was like oh I'm washing the dishes but I'm going to go and have a look at her and by the time she looked at it she was like no she's not here she panick which make me even Panic more and uh and I I I I didn't know what to do so my friend um she was a bit older she gave me that advice I was because I was only 18 at this time she gave me that advice we go to the police you just um take it easy things are going to be okay so I went to the police and that's how they they just um cuz he wasn't responsing any calls to anything so they uh sent him a email message telling him that if he doesn't come back with a child they're going to report him and start looking for him yeah um and then he came back like like a joke he was like I was just joking I said I have a message where you are literally like telling me your kidnapping my daughter and he was like no that was just a joke he was a yeah um so yeah that was one of the first thing I um and what happened next wow things didn't finish the I think uh ear I was under his like all the time uh trying to just to to play with my mind just to make me crazy um we had a um another interesting story when um uh we were home uh playing cards with two of my friends and uh uh two girls and one boy so three of my friends um and two kids my daughter and my little sister cuz I have a little sister almost same much as my daughter there were little kids at the time I think year or two years old or something like this um so we were playing cards and then he walked in into apartment it's my it was my apartment I was wrting the apartment he literally break the door like break in into the house pointing a gun to the guy that was um in there it wasn't just me and the guy we were me two and other friends and him and two kids as well and um and he pointed the gun and then I jump and I tried to stop him and he was like um trying to um um scare the guy and I just jump and I asked him please stop and then he grabbed there was a knife on the table and he grabbed the knife and and then he was like I'm going to kill you so grab his uh t-shirt literally U rip up the the T-shirt ripped off the t-shirt and um and I was like what what I just grabbed him and I took him to to my um to my room to try to calm him down and by this time the guy and two two of my friends and the kids they run away from the apartment so I left alone in there but he come down I think that was all just the so he broke into the apartment literally broke the door pointed a again to your friends yeah why I was he was he thinking you were cheating on him I think he did it just because of uh just I think he's a clone he's a clown I think he is a clown and he loves uh that kind of drama and I to something you find on an everyday basis you know just just a r guy you know and then over sudden well that's no end of the story cuz uh uh my mom she went um I called my mom after and she took the the guy that he was po pointing the gum to to take him to the police so he can um um tell the story to the police and uh in the next day it was my turn they called me to go and uh give my um uh St statement your statement yeah um and I I went and uh by walking in the police station they was the uh the sheriff or the the main the the boss of the police I don't know how you call that Chief the the chief okay and the moment I walked to the room uh they asked me about the story and he was like she doesn't need to have she doesn't need to say her story uh why you are why you are bothering the police it was the question of the chief and I was like who do is a gun is a person coming into my house breaking into my house with a gun who am I supposed to go like if it's not the police and they said and he said but you were cheating on your husband with the S other guy and he just woke in and he saw you of course if it's my wife I would do the same and I said well that's not the storyit a minute wait a minute so the chief police officer you went to file a statement and he said if I was seeing my wife Che on me I would have done the same absolutely absolutely wow just because my uh Nico's dad my my daughter's father he went with some um famous people in my town unfortunately bulgar does things have work if you're a mafia or something you can easily get away with anything you do so he went so that set up was Mafia yeah that was just set up by by by him telling oh I just I just came back home we're not living together we haven't been living together for I think at this point it was months if not a year and uh he was like I just walk in in my home and I I find out my my wife is cheating that's why I point the gun to the to the boy and I was like that's a [ __ ] that's not what happen and you have mine and my mom's and the kids and everyone was there I can I have all the proof but but there was like we don't need to hear that I said okay you just take that to the court and I from yeah yeah wow that's like next level yeah cuz uh it was it was really good I could literally um I didn't do it because his job is uh security he's um uh like a bodyguard for Mafia and uh he really needed his gun but if I wanted to take that further I hope you're safe while you saying this exact conversation right now I am and I will check with you before we do this like are you okay doing that CU you don't want any kind it's okay because um yeah he's far from uh Bulgaria now he needed to run away cuz he had some problems with Mafia himself uh now when he literally has to take all his family and kids and without even telling my daughter he left Bulgaria for for good I think he's in Canada or somewhere wow that has been a very big chapter in your life it was and you know something not an the everyday person you know come across to knowing that age especially moving forward coming back to today you have done so many amazing things including your fitness journey oh yes you are an expr bodybuilder competed a few times won a few medals can you tell me more about that uh that's a a good part of my life where did it all started when you said I want to take my fitness journey on a on a bigger level and compete with other people I've always been healthy not always but especially when I came uh 10 years ago in UK that was when I start like a a proper healthy lifestyle like eating healthy um doing gym and U not really gym I never done a proper gym I was more like cardio and uh I'm a swimmer and um I used to love running um but the Journey of as a bodybuilder start after the pandemic during the pandemic because I'm very active person very I love to be around people and um yeah um pandemic I know you for for a number of years and actually we met back in 2019 I think it was and I haven't seen you in a single moment that you're not in shape you're constantly in shape year round and there's people that we both know they said when especially when it was around the time that you competed and they said you must be on something you must be taking steroids you must be doing I don't know how many drugs but is that the truth that's not the truth I so far I was um I was um natural if I went to uh USA in America where was my um my your dream my dream uh but because of injury didn't happen I would probably I would I was uh talking about with my coach I was talking about it with my dietician because I had the all that team with me and um I was considering doing it in USA cuz you know the competition there is I'm not saying UK UK is a big competition as well a love a good competitor uh but USA it's another level so I would probably go there but so far in UK I didn't nether I always did um feminine uh category which is uh uh bikini and Diva I was okay I was best in Diva Diva was my my main thing cuz it's more sassiness and that's where it's like more the feminine type of energy you don't need to be you need to be in a good shape but it's more the way you play with your body the way you play with the uh judges and it's um it's just it's just my the way you move you mean and on stage and all that yeah I I get that but have you ever thought why you want to uh start taking start taking things to and inject to your body at what stage you were and you said you know to reach the next level I need to do that I really was thinking about if I if I go to to America for the world championship I would I would do it because in there mhm I wouldn't they don't have diva in there in in the um uh category uh you do in America the Federation they don't do diva they do only Fitness bikini and fitness bikini it's I've done Fitness bikini in UK as well I always end up the second place um div my main thing that's the one I I won and became a pro in UK uh in the main show uh um but USA it was only uh Fitness bikini where you need to be a bit more um yeah actually because I took part in one of your competitions that you did uh in the local area and the only reason that you didn't take the first place based on what the judges said it was because you look too perfect to get number one yeah and ever since ever I'm sorry for interrupting ever since that day it's just stayed with me and I'm I was I was getting annoyed by that how can you tell me I'm too good to get number one and that's why you give me the second place it's because they keep saying it's uh uh you have to be quite feminine but I gener I naturally have a really visible apps so they say you're just abs are too visible and it's not first time I facing that first my first ever competition where I that was my first ever competition I still out of 15 girls in Wells I I um I finished second just because of my visible apps um even then at this show I was a beginner it was my first show ever and I was a beginner they kicked me out they literally stop in the middle of when we were walking on a stage 15 girls or no in the beginners there were even probably more they stop to just tell me that I have to walk out of this category cuz I'm looking too good for a beginner I'm looking too good you have to walk out yeah so I'm thinking if I compete this year as um as a master would they stop the show to say oh you look too young for being a master or something I'm not I'm not an expert in like what the judges are doing or what the judges are looking for when someone competes on stage but you made a statement and you said I don't look feminine enough what that comes to my mind is when I look at Pro bodybuilders don't matter the gender they all look very massive very big and very musly and especially when it comes to female bodybuilding and for those who do take uh steroid for they do take other things as well their whole body structure changes a lot and becomes more masculine I don't see you in that category and I've never I've never saw you I've never seen you in in that category to to look to at least the look part you know what I mean I never saw myself in that category as well I always I always like my shapes and I always like that I keep feminine the thing is I think people sorry to say that but I think people just being jealous that they they can't get the results they want and I I'm not going to lie I have natural good shapes it's just genetic you're you're naturally gifted naturally gifted but of course there is a lot of work behind what does what people don't understand it's the food is the one of the most important things and a lot of um uh girls they don't really know how to to is not just what you do at the gym but what you do at the kitchen and that's where the results are coming from and um I always been healthy and and that's that that's the difference I don't have even boking I still Boke with a good healthy food and uh um I was when whenever I tell people I'm a vegan as well they're like oh how do you get those r with there's a vegan you can't get yeah where the protein comes from where how do you do this and I was like like it's just it's just a build up from the so many years I've been doing this it's so many years I literally needed three months at the gym three months to get into a stage for first time in my life and finish second and out of um a good number girls that they were amazing but I think this comes from the many years of you doing a dieting and keeping a good part of your your body a healthy body to be able to then work out for 3 months and then get the results that you're always looking for and I think most people they underestimate the the power of you know a healthy lifestyle and some some people men or women depends on what they do especially if they compete and besides the time the period of time that they actually compete they they don't stay dedicated to the to the lifestyle we might go out drinking and speaking of drinking we have been out together so many times I never drink you don't drink that is the number one thing like I can tell from that only you know and there a a funny moment that when we when we went out together one time we had some foods and restaurants we were ordering drinks and the only thing that you ordered was water and I made I made I made a joke out of this and I said can we get some Premium Water because that's the only thing I was on prep at this moment that's why otherwise I could go for something but generally I'm really healthy I don't I don't eat outside I don't not that I'm a best chef but I just know what I cook I know what I eat and that that's all my that's all the time that's not just when I'm on prep that's not that's just my lifestyle but that tells me me a lot of things with even if I wouldn't know you being able to be that consistent that dedicated it's that Focus to uh to look out for yourself first and foremost let alone involving other people this is all these things matter and they are connected to how you meet other people what are the things they tell uh between themselves about you when you know the after the first impression all the things M you know and ever since I I've I've known you maybe it's like 5 years now four five years that's we first met yeah it must be is is that exactly thing it's what you're looking at and how they represent themselves how they represent themselves amongst other people and what other people have to say about you and most of the time is the kind of energy that you give to to them you know and you're a very positive person and this is what I really like about you cuz you're very positive person you're very happy person I say just a little bit of my life at the beginning but I've been that is the source of um what are the people are getting from you and they want to be part of your life which is I believe in that so much because if you're not this kind of person that you are happy no matter the situation no matter the no matter how difficult the situation might be you always trying to remain positive and always have a Keen Eye to see things or from a different perspective and how you can you know get your get your things together without you know being in that loophole when a lot of people are struggling with because everybody struggles with anything nowaday that's true it's not common but it's how you deal with it and and I see that myself cuz I'm the kind of person that absorbs people's energy in a good way and in a bad way so if I surround myself with individuals that are there constantly toxic constantly negative constantly in a bad mood constantly cursing I become this person even if I don't want to do that so I try to remove myself from this position and only surround myself with individuals and people that are exactly how I am like a positive energetic person who wants to provide who wants to give to you as much as I can because then I can bring out the best version of me yeah that's a good way to see things me if I have negative people I just I just run away if I have to be honest I don't became one as as I said a lot of uh bad experiences my life met a b no really good people and I just choose to be to be the you know what I believe especially when it comes to women women are attractive to good things and positive things and the better that a guy's life is the more chances uh he has to attract more women to his life even that doesn't necessarily mean that he he's f free if he is that's just another thing that's just another bonus but the I think the the secrets the the key to this is how positive person you are as to how much good energy you're giving out to other people and I've seen this so much every time that um I'm this person to do XY Z to be around with other people that are exactly like me with the same kind of energy with the same kind of vibe we attract other people because it feels so natural to you when I come to talk to you that you don't know me and you've already giving me the approval your approval to talk to you just because of how confident I am maybe or The Vibes that I give you before even come talking to you see what I mean yeah absolutely no that's true I wouldn't let anyone to come if it doesn't give me a bad if it doesn't give me a good vibe cuz as you said yourself I'm a positive person so that's what I'm looking for I I'm not looking for any bad energy yeah and and it's the famous quote that comes from Bruce Lee is what you think you shall become and it's exactly that absolutely and part of this whole um ideology is how I see my life right now and where I want to be but the the secret is and the key thing things to to do that to achieve that kind of Lifestyle XY Z what no no matter what it is is how many what actions you actually take to go from where you are today to be where you want to be in the future and over the last couple months me personally I've been doing exactly that and I've been taking massive steps forward without I I wasn't even aware I could do such amazing things in such little time so and anybody that I know I try to say hey you want to do this let me let me tell you how I see it if you find this information available take it apply to your life if you get something out of this it's a win-win if you don't fine you can put that aside as long as you actually try yeah I know many times in my life for the last four or five years I've been coming to you advices even things that you never uh experienced in your life you still cuz probably you know me I guess you just always been giving me um a good advice and um yeah I really appreciate I'm like a therapist without a degree hon honestly honestly many many times I I felt like I've been on therapy after talking to you it feels like a therapy a session yeah there fun as well yeah always is always talking to you it feels like therapy to I guess that comes down because I like to see things from a different perspective than most people actually see their life and I that's interesting because I I met uh I met this person um the other day and I said that is exactly the same thing because I was always the young man to look out look out for individuals people other men that that they have a lot of stories to tell they have a lot of background and I always admire these kind of people because I I stop say perform I wanted to be this kind of man in the future so from from young age I always had that kind of mentality to be a little bit more mature than my my age you know when you're first when you're like 20 18 you know 17 and all that um but to today I prefer I like to tell stories I like to be around with individuals that have an interesting story an interesting background and how that story made them who they are today and that is the most interesting thing about being able to have different stories to tell yeah yeah cuz you live one life and the amount of opportunities you get within that life that one life that are unlimited and what do I mean by this I'll give you an example if you're chasing a career I was in the it I was very good in computers and this is what I was very focused on achieving and getting more and more and more and more and because it was it was my only Vision at the time I did it because if you really if you really put everything in line and you say to yourself I want to achieve this no matter what you find out that you will potentially do it but the more that you find uh as soon as you follow this straight line you will see if you are able to see that there are other doors like other side quest that you can do meanwhile trying to achieve your ideal dream meaning if you decide to step aside just for once and try and to something differently you find out you can you can pick a different path which you you may have never thought about this and to me I leave this dream real time right now with the things that I do so one and it's very difficult I guess to be able to see those kind of things because the way I I do it is I try to put myself in a third uh third party View and this is how I always see my life because I've never had anyone to tell me what I la and what are what are my inconsistencies So I forc myself to teach myself how to see them and that is very difficult to do takes years sometimes even if you try to do that you don't know what you're looking at so you see how deep this was yeah wow I literally uh dive in yeah I like this kind of conversations cuz it's pointless if you find people that you want to be around with that you cannot have conversations that like that and I don't find anything out of normal conversations that doesn't benefit me in some in some shape form of course cuz it doesn't make your life any more interesting and and this is what I this is my honest opinion so if you guys enjoying this kind of episode make sure you like and I'll see you next time my daughter she was a little baby literally a baby she was in her small bed and I went for a coffee with friend and I said to my mom I I'm going to leave Nico and I'm just going to go for a coffee and uh and I'll be back soon and while I was having my coffee with my friend I got a a weird message of um of her father saying just because you don't want to be with me um I'm going to make your life really hard and you're not going to see your child anymore welcome back to another episode of f cast my name is Dennis jges and today I have a very special guest of mine a very good friend of mine Karina mova yes welcome this is the first time actually you you know you're agreed to be here and we've been talking quite a lot about this and I wanted to introduce like familiar faces friend of mine you know new friends coming into the show and talk about anything really because I like to tell a story I like to tell a good story and I always find your stor is quite interesting so welcome thank you thank you for asking me to come that's okay no problem at all thank you for taking the time to be here I know you're quite busy yourself yeah but for friends yeah yeah absolutely take me back to when you first moved to the UK before you moved to the UK what what would you what you went through and what made you like come over oh wow that was a long time ago 10 years ago I think 2013 was the first time I I came to UK I had one of my best friend she had um fiance in here from exmouth a marine guy uh so she said I'm going um to live with him in UK and at this point I was um after a really um long and bad relationship um in my life so I really needed it to run away literally running away from Bulgaria and I thought it it's a really good opportunity just to come to UK and uh I said okay she said it's on the seaside um at this point I could I'm I'm a hairdresser and a Bara and at this point I was um I know B then as well and I was thinking maybe on the seaside I can find some job as a b there or why not in a bigger city as a exitor where we are now um I had dresser yeah so yeah that's how I came with her and you had your daughter Nikki behind the cameras Oh a beautiful one she's a a big girl now uh she didn't came with me this um this period um she CU she was going to school so I left her back in Bulgaria I came to see what kind of opportunity I could find in UK yeah and there it must have been like a very difficult Journey For You difficult decision um rather to do because obviously having a child you know raising up mostly by yourself and you know making that massive step forward for a better future yeah I find some uh I had some really bad moments in UK but generally I really like UK for a place where my daughter could grow up M uh as you say I've been raising her almost in my own almost most of the time on my own so I find this really good opportunity so that's that's the reason that's the reason I came back AB uh two years later on 2016 I came back with her yeah and U yeah eight years later still here absolutely he's going college now different things I mean I see that myself cuz I moved from Greece to the UK about 7even years ago almost and I mean I can't compare to your life you know having a kids and doing all these great things yourself but is a massive thing to do especially when you're young I was 21 when I first came to UK and with literally zero pounds in my bank account and I said I don't care as long as I can be somewhere where I can build myself and build my future because I care so much about the things I want to do later on I don't care about sacrificing a couple of years when I'm like 20 to to to be able to then afford this kind of Life fast forward 7 years to today I'm now doing exactly the same thing from a different perspective because I do all this to achieve the exactly the the exact same situation that uh I want to do you know and for for a lot of people including myself I don't exclude myself is Financial Freedom this is what you want to this is this is what you want to do and this is what I want to do to achieve to be able to support not just my life but support like a lot of other people's life my families and and whoever whoever comes along you know you see what I mean uh what was the biggest challenge that you faced since you had a child because you had a very very young age before you moved to UK oh wow um so at the age of 15 uh I became an adult basically cuz I started working uh my mom is a hairdresses so I literally grew up in her shop as a hairdresser I was working off age of uh 15 I was already like I could say independent kind of where I uh met in age of 16 my daughter's father um things happened really quick and uh I got pregnant and uh an age of 17 I was already a mom and um wow that was a really really difficult time of my life um I would say probably the most difficult time of my life cuz I was a child myself and I have to look after a child and uh basically dealing with the person because his father her father it's um is not really nice person it's um I would say a narcissistic person okay and I really really have to um to deal with that in age of 16 which was a really really uh big challenge for me um I've been abused by him sexually and um and any kind I you can imagine um and age of 18 I think yeah exactly it was my birthday on uh 16 of May and then 17th of May in the morning I just because he lives in another town U probably 100 miles away from my town I wake up early in the morning of age of 18 exactly 10 age of 18 and I run away from him I took my child uh in a taxi and I just say just drive back to my town and that I was only 18 and that was my life started completely like um independent woman that sounds like a movie at the age of 18 you run away with one kid one kid that your hands and and no regrets and say this is it oh no I never I never looked it back and um uh the reality is I didn't really love them men uh I was too young just experiencing sex and we were together probably two or three months and I find out I'm pregnant and it was it was really um my family when they uh find out like my dad I I thought he going to um get mad but he was happy he was like yeah and my reaction probably told him I'm not sure why I want cuz I'm only 16 years old and he was like looking at me and was like if you ever think of uh killing that baby you're a killer for me so in this point in six of age of 16 you you respect your parents you respect your parents um opinion and advice and then I was like okay so I have to keep that uh baby I guess and the next thing was you have to marry them man I'm coming from country when when you're preg that you have to get married so they made me married I was only um uh already 17 when I got married and uh and yeah the the point is that I I wasn't really in love with this man I didn't really experiencing a the Big Love Of Love of My Life One thing just things happen so quick that um yeah I just have I had to move in his town and as soon as I turned 18 as I told you I I literally run away from him and um I never looked back but he didn't let me just go as easy as I thought I just leave you town and with your child and everything will be fine so that's what the biggest challenges in my life uh came when he was like um uh literally um chasing me and uh I had a a funny story when I was um uh she my daughter she was a little baby literally a baby she was in her small bed and uh I went for a coffee with friend and I said to my mom I I'm going to leave ni and I'm just going to go for a coffee and uh and I'll be back soon and while I was having my coffee with my friend I got a a weird message of um of her father saying just because you don't want to be with me um I'm going to make you life really hard and you're not going to see your child anymore and I was like I was thinking he's bluffing I I wouldn't even imagine anything that he could do and uh I just called my mom to double check is Nico okay is she sleeping is she on her bed and she was like oh I'm washing the dishes but I'm going to go and have a look at her and by the time she looked at it she was like no she's not here she panick which make me even Panic more and uh and I I I I didn't know what to do so my friend um she was a bit older she gave me that advice I was because I was only 18 at this time she gave me that advice we go to the police you just um take it easy things are going to be okay so I went to the police and that's how they they just um cuz he wasn't responsing any calls to anything so they uh sent him a email message telling him that if he doesn't come back with a child they're going to report him and start looking for him yeah um and then he came back like like a joke he was like I was just joking I said I have a message where you are literally like telling me your kidnapping my daughter and he was like no that was just a joke he was a yeah um so yeah that was one of the first thing I um and what happened next wow things didn't finish the I think uh ear I was under his like all the time uh trying to just to to play with my mind just to make me crazy um we had a um another interesting story when um uh we were home uh playing cards with two of my friends and uh uh two girls and one boy so three of my friends um and two kids my daughter and my little sister cuz I have a little sister almost same much as my daughter there were little kids at the time I think year or two years old or something like this um so we were playing cards and then he walked in into apartment it's my it was my apartment I was wrting the apartment he literally break the door like break in into the house pointing a gun to the guy that was um in there it wasn't just me and the guy we were me two and other friends and him and two kids as well and um and he pointed the gun and then I jump and I tried to stop him and he was like um trying to um um scare the guy and I just jump and I asked him please stop and then he grabbed there was a knife on the table and he grabbed the knife and and then he was like I'm going to kill you so grab his uh t-shirt literally U rip up the the T-shirt ripped off the t-shirt and um and I was like what what I just grabbed him and I took him to to my um to my room to try to calm him down and by this time the guy and two two of my friends and the kids they run away from the apartment so I left alone in there but he come down I think that was all just the so he broke into the apartment literally broke the door pointed a again to your friends yeah why I was he was he thinking you were cheating on him I think he did it just because of uh just I think he's a clone he's a clown I think he is a clown and he loves uh that kind of drama and I to something you find on an everyday basis you know just just a r guy you know and then over sudden well that's no end of the story cuz uh uh my mom she went um I called my mom after and she took the the guy that he was po pointing the gum to to take him to the police so he can um um tell the story to the police and uh in the next day it was my turn they called me to go and uh give my um uh St statement your statement yeah um and I I went and uh by walking in the police station they was the uh the sheriff or the the main the the boss of the police I don't know how you call that Chief the the chief okay and the moment I walked to the room uh they asked me about the story and he was like she doesn't need to have she doesn't need to say her story uh why you are why you are bothering the police it was the question of the chief and I was like who do is a gun is a person coming into my house breaking into my house with a gun who am I supposed to go like if it's not the police and they said and he said but you were cheating on your husband with the S other guy and he just woke in and he saw you of course if it's my wife I would do the same and I said well that's not the storyit a minute wait a minute so the chief police officer you went to file a statement and he said if I was seeing my wife Che on me I would have done the same absolutely absolutely wow just because my uh Nico's dad my my daughter's father he went with some um famous people in my town unfortunately bulgar does things have work if you're a mafia or something you can easily get away with anything you do so he went so that set up was Mafia yeah that was just set up by by by him telling oh I just I just came back home we're not living together we haven't been living together for I think at this point it was months if not a year and uh he was like I just walk in in my home and I I find out my my wife is cheating that's why I point the gun to the to the boy and I was like that's a [ __ ] that's not what happen and you have mine and my mom's and the kids and everyone was there I can I have all the proof but but there was like we don't need to hear that I said okay you just take that to the court and I from yeah yeah wow that's like next level yeah cuz uh it was it was really good I could literally um I didn't do it because his job is uh security he's um uh like a bodyguard for Mafia and uh he really needed his gun but if I wanted to take that further I hope you're safe while you saying this exact conversation right now I am and I will check with you before we do this like are you okay doing that CU you don't want any kind it's okay because um yeah he's far from uh Bulgaria now he needed to run away cuz he had some problems with Mafia himself uh now when he literally has to take all his family and kids and without even telling my daughter he left Bulgaria for for good I think he's in Canada or somewhere wow that has been a very big chapter in your life it was and you know something not an the everyday person you know come across to knowing that age especially moving forward coming back to today you have done so many amazing things including your fitness journey oh yes you are an expr bodybuilder competed a few times won a few medals can you tell me more about that uh that's a a good part of my life where did it all started when you said I want to take my fitness journey on a on a bigger level and compete with other people I've always been healthy not always but especially when I came uh 10 years ago in UK that was when I start like a a proper healthy lifestyle like eating healthy um doing gym and U not really gym I never done a proper gym I was more like cardio and uh I'm a swimmer and um I used to love running um but the Journey of as a bodybuilder start after the pandemic during the pandemic because I'm very active person very I love to be around people and um yeah um pandemic I know you for for a number of years and actually we met back in 2019 I think it was and I haven't seen you in a single moment that you're not in shape you're constantly in shape year round and there's people that we both know they said when especially when it was around the time that you competed and they said you must be on something you must be taking steroids you must be doing I don't know how many drugs but is that the truth that's not the truth I so far I was um I was um natural if I went to uh USA in America where was my um my your dream my dream uh but because of injury didn't happen I would probably I would I was uh talking about with my coach I was talking about it with my dietician because I had the all that team with me and um I was considering doing it in USA cuz you know the competition there is I'm not saying UK UK is a big competition as well a love a good competitor uh but USA it's another level so I would probably go there but so far in UK I didn't nether I always did um feminine uh category which is uh uh bikini and Diva I was okay I was best in Diva Diva was my my main thing cuz it's more sassiness and that's where it's like more the feminine type of energy you don't need to be you need to be in a good shape but it's more the way you play with your body the way you play with the uh judges and it's um it's just it's just my the way you move you mean and on stage and all that yeah I I get that but have you ever thought why you want to uh start taking start taking things to and inject to your body at what stage you were and you said you know to reach the next level I need to do that I really was thinking about if I if I go to to America for the world championship I would I would do it because in there mhm I wouldn't they don't have diva in there in in the um uh category uh you do in America the Federation they don't do diva they do only Fitness bikini and fitness bikini it's I've done Fitness bikini in UK as well I always end up the second place um div my main thing that's the one I I won and became a pro in UK uh in the main show uh um but USA it was only uh Fitness bikini where you need to be a bit more um yeah actually because I took part in one of your competitions that you did uh in the local area and the only reason that you didn't take the first place based on what the judges said it was because you look too perfect to get number one yeah and ever since ever I'm sorry for interrupting ever since that day it's just stayed with me and I'm I was I was getting annoyed by that how can you tell me I'm too good to get number one and that's why you give me the second place it's because they keep saying it's uh uh you have to be quite feminine but I gener I naturally have a really visible apps so they say you're just abs are too visible and it's not first time I facing that first my first ever competition where I that was my first ever competition I still out of 15 girls in Wells I I um I finished second just because of my visible apps um even then at this show I was a beginner it was my first show ever and I was a beginner they kicked me out they literally stop in the middle of when we were walking on a stage 15 girls or no in the beginners there were even probably more they stop to just tell me that I have to walk out of this category cuz I'm looking too good for a beginner I'm looking too good you have to walk out yeah so I'm thinking if I compete this year as um as a master would they stop the show to say oh you look too young for being a master or something I'm not I'm not an expert in like what the judges are doing or what the judges are looking for when someone competes on stage but you made a statement and you said I don't look feminine enough what that comes to my mind is when I look at Pro bodybuilders don't matter the gender they all look very massive very big and very musly and especially when it comes to female bodybuilding and for those who do take uh steroid for they do take other things as well their whole body structure changes a lot and becomes more masculine I don't see you in that category and I've never I've never saw you I've never seen you in in that category to to look to at least the look part you know what I mean I never saw myself in that category as well I always I always like my shapes and I always like that I keep feminine the thing is I think people sorry to say that but I think people just being jealous that they they can't get the results they want and I I'm not going to lie I have natural good shapes it's just genetic you're you're naturally gifted naturally gifted but of course there is a lot of work behind what does what people don't understand it's the food is the one of the most important things and a lot of um uh girls they don't really know how to to is not just what you do at the gym but what you do at the kitchen and that's where the results are coming from and um I always been healthy and and that's that that's the difference I don't have even boking I still Boke with a good healthy food and uh um I was when whenever I tell people I'm a vegan as well they're like oh how do you get those r with there's a vegan you can't get yeah where the protein comes from where how do you do this and I was like like it's just it's just a build up from the so many years I've been doing this it's so many years I literally needed three months at the gym three months to get into a stage for first time in my life and finish second and out of um a good number girls that they were amazing but I think this comes from the many years of you doing a dieting and keeping a good part of your your body a healthy body to be able to then work out for 3 months and then get the results that you're always looking for and I think most people they underestimate the the power of you know a healthy lifestyle and some some people men or women depends on what they do especially if they compete and besides the time the period of time that they actually compete they they don't stay dedicated to the to the lifestyle we might go out drinking and speaking of drinking we have been out together so many times I never drink you don't drink that is the number one thing like I can tell from that only you know and there a a funny moment that when we when we went out together one time we had some foods and restaurants we were ordering drinks and the only thing that you ordered was water and I made I made I made a joke out of this and I said can we get some Premium Water because that's the only thing I was on prep at this moment that's why otherwise I could go for something but generally I'm really healthy I don't I don't eat outside I don't not that I'm a best chef but I just know what I cook I know what I eat and that that's all my that's all the time that's not just when I'm on prep that's not that's just my lifestyle but that tells me me a lot of things with even if I wouldn't know you being able to be that consistent that dedicated it's that Focus to uh to look out for yourself first and foremost let alone involving other people this is all these things matter and they are connected to how you meet other people what are the things they tell uh between themselves about you when you know the after the first impression all the things M you know and ever since I I've I've known you maybe it's like 5 years now four five years that's we first met yeah it must be is is that exactly thing it's what you're looking at and how they represent themselves how they represent themselves amongst other people and what other people have to say about you and most of the time is the kind of energy that you give to to them you know and you're a very positive person and this is what I really like about you cuz you're very positive person you're very happy person I say just a little bit of my life at the beginning but I've been that is the source of um what are the people are getting from you and they want to be part of your life which is I believe in that so much because if you're not this kind of person that you are happy no matter the situation no matter the no matter how difficult the situation might be you always trying to remain positive and always have a Keen Eye to see things or from a different perspective and how you can you know get your get your things together without you know being in that loophole when a lot of people are struggling with because everybody struggles with anything nowaday that's true it's not common but it's how you deal with it and and I see that myself cuz I'm the kind of person that absorbs people's energy in a good way and in a bad way so if I surround myself with individuals that are there constantly toxic constantly negative constantly in a bad mood constantly cursing I become this person even if I don't want to do that so I try to remove myself from this position and only surround myself with individuals and people that are exactly how I am like a positive energetic person who wants to provide who wants to give to you as much as I can because then I can bring out the best version of me yeah that's a good way to see things me if I have negative people I just I just run away if I have to be honest I don't became one as as I said a lot of uh bad experiences my life met a b no really good people and I just choose to be to be the you know what I believe especially when it comes to women women are attractive to good things and positive things and the better that a guy's life is the more chances uh he has to attract more women to his life even that doesn't necessarily mean that he he's f free if he is that's just another thing that's just another bonus but the I think the the secrets the the key to this is how positive person you are as to how much good energy you're giving out to other people and I've seen this so much every time that um I'm this person to do XY Z to be around with other people that are exactly like me with the same kind of energy with the same kind of vibe we attract other people because it feels so natural to you when I come to talk to you that you don't know me and you've already giving me the approval your approval to talk to you just because of how confident I am maybe or The Vibes that I give you before even come talking to you see what I mean yeah absolutely no that's true I wouldn't let anyone to come if it doesn't give me a bad if it doesn't give me a good vibe cuz as you said yourself I'm a positive person so that's what I'm looking for I I'm not looking for any bad energy yeah and and it's the famous quote that comes from Bruce Lee is what you think you shall become and it's exactly that absolutely and part of this whole um ideology is how I see my life right now and where I want to be but the the secret is and the key thing things to to do that to achieve that kind of Lifestyle XY Z what no no matter what it is is how many what actions you actually take to go from where you are today to be where you want to be in the future and over the last couple months me personally I've been doing exactly that and I've been taking massive steps forward without I I wasn't even aware I could do such amazing things in such little time so and anybody that I know I try to say hey you want to do this let me let me tell you how I see it if you find this information available take it apply to your life if you get something out of this it's a win-win if you don't fine you can put that aside as long as you actually try yeah I know many times in my life for the last four or five years I've been coming to you advices even things that you never uh experienced in your life you still cuz probably you know me I guess you just always been giving me um a good advice and um yeah I really appreciate I'm like a therapist without a degree hon honestly honestly many many times I I felt like I've been on therapy after talking to you it feels like a therapy a session yeah there fun as well yeah always is always talking to you it feels like therapy to I guess that comes down because I like to see things from a different perspective than most people actually see their life and I that's interesting because I I met uh I met this person um the other day and I said that is exactly the same thing because I was always the young man to look out look out for individuals people other men that that they have a lot of stories to tell they have a lot of background and I always admire these kind of people because I I stop say perform I wanted to be this kind of man in the future so from from young age I always had that kind of mentality to be a little bit more mature than my my age you know when you're first when you're like 20 18 you know 17 and all that um but to today I prefer I like to tell stories I like to be around with individuals that have an interesting story an interesting background and how that story made them who they are today and that is the most interesting thing about being able to have different stories to tell yeah yeah cuz you live one life and the amount of opportunities you get within that life that one life that are unlimited and what do I mean by this I'll give you an example if you're chasing a career I was in the it I was very good in computers and this is what I was very focused on achieving and getting more and more and more and more and because it was it was my only Vision at the time I did it because if you really if you really put everything in line and you say to yourself I want to achieve this no matter what you find out that you will potentially do it but the more that you find uh as soon as you follow this straight line you will see if you are able to see that there are other doors like other side quest that you can do meanwhile trying to achieve your ideal dream meaning if you decide to step aside just for once and try and to something differently you find out you can you can pick a different path which you you may have never thought about this and to me I leave this dream real time right now with the things that I do so one and it's very difficult I guess to be able to see those kind of things because the way I I do it is I try to put myself in a third uh third party View and this is how I always see my life because I've never had anyone to tell me what I la and what are what are my inconsistencies So I forc myself to teach myself how to see them and that is very difficult to do takes years sometimes even if you try to do that you don't know what you're looking at so you see how deep this was yeah wow I literally uh dive in yeah I like this kind of conversations cuz it's pointless if you find people that you want to be around with that you cannot have conversations that like that and I don't find anything out of normal conversations that doesn't benefit me in some in some shape form of course cuz it doesn't make your life any more interesting and and this is what I this is my honest opinion so if you guys enjoying this kind of episode make sure you like and I'll see you next time